Sometimes our feelings can take us by surprise, and we don't realize we are actually holding the hurt, or the pain or sometimes the anger within us for a situation until it arises.
A simple comment can spark off a reaction and you don't know why. With some people it's a one way street and that what you sometimes give to them you don't get back in return.
It's hard when it's supposed to be an equal footing with someone and you have to break the cycle and often you don't want to face this or see it. We all bury our head in the sand about that.
It's about making an effort to be present in someone elses life especially if you said you would be there and not getting wrapped up in your own life all the time. It can sadly ruin friendships, relationships and many other things, sadly some people can be selfish and they just don't see it.
Remember, we all have busy lives, a lot of people have heavy work commitments, kids, problems, etc. and if the other person or people make an effort and it's not returned then people will eventually get disheartened and you will find you could be left on your own. It's a sad fact but true.
I am guilty of it sometimes, I know. I do my best to not make it a habit, but I always do my best to support them and try to be on the end of the phone for them and call when I say I will call. It's never easy and sometimes it can be exhausting, but it's about making an effort especially if they really do mean something to you. However, that's not always returned and sadly some people say that they haven't seen you and they complain, yet you have made every effort to make it happen and it just doesn't.
So sometimes it's time to stop and ask yourself, am I really being fair, are things really equal or is it a one way street. We may not like the answer and we have to deal with that.
Are you the one going to visit others? Are you the one trying to make plans and getting no commitment? Are you the one who is texting, calling and leaving messages and not getting answered? Are you the one waiting for the phone to ring? If so, it is time to stop.
People change through life and if you don't like who they have become, wish them well then take a step back, because after all, you deserve so much more than this and life is not a one way street, you have to honor yourself. You can't force a situation to happen and when you do stop, take a moment to sit back and see this, don't be bitter, angry and upset. Maybe they just don't see how much they are hurting you because they have gotten so wrapped up in their own life. Take that step back and wait for them to take a step towards you for a change. Then you will see the reality and hopefully, the other person will realize what they had and possibly lost.