Thursday, April 30, 2015

New Central Air Conditioning Unit

New 30,000 BTU Hi-Efficient 16 Seer Air Conditioning Unit
A couple of weeks ago when we has a seasonably warm day, I went to put on our central air unit for the first time this spring. To my surprise no air was blowing out and we had to call the service man in to look at it.  After he looked things over he discovered that our air handler in the attic which was 32 years old had finally went.  It was disappointing but expected especially since it was so old.  Our out side unit was 12 years old and that was probably only going to last a few more years.  We talked to Elm Air and decided it was best to replace the whole unit.  It was costly $8300 but we were also going to get a EneryStar rebate back of $1000 for PSEG our electric company so that brought the price down a bit.  We also decided to install a AprilAir whole-air cleaner that would clean the air quality in the house of dust, dander, pollen, viruses, etc.  

April Air whole-air cleaner.
The new whole-air system was a great idea because it would definitely help with my asthma.  Plus instead of replacing filters every month like we used to have to do with our old system the new system only requires you to change the filter once a year.  The filters are only $49.  So not bad.  My husband can even do that himself. 

We've had the unit installed yesterday and they were here from 8:30 am until just before 5pm installing it.  They even put in a new digital thermostat that we can use to schedule when we want our system to go on and off.  I have had it running since yesterday and the house is a nice comfortable 70 degrees.  It is nice to be able to close the windows a bit because of my allergies and I don't have to worry.  I am happy though this happened at a time when it wasn't hot out.  Looking forward to a nice cool summer!

Friday, April 24, 2015

Day of Beauty

My three Cavalier King Charles Spaniels after their day of Beauty at the Happy Pet Salon.

Molly, Bella and Sophie

Saturday, April 18, 2015

Poor Sophie Ana - Colitis Cavalier King Charles Spaniel

Sophie Ana - 16 months old at Vet.
Sophie my youngest Cavalier King Charles Spaniel who is just 16 months old hasn't been feeling good the last few days she had diarrhea like she did once before in January.  We feed our dogs holistic dog food and cooked chicken everyday as we know most of the grocery store dog foods are very bad for your dog.  Some people don't check those ingredients and have no idea what they are feeding their dog can actually hurt them.  Cheap food is not good! So I knew it couldn't be anything to do with her food.  We keep the yard very clean so I knew she hadn't got into anything there either plus we have not ventured out to any dog parks yet this Spring and every shot is up to date with her.  We take care of our pets probably better than we do they are our babies.  So when  she got sick I started to worry.  Now back in January when she had this same problem.  The vet put her on probiotic to be put in her food and also changed her diet to a prescription low fat gastrointestinal diet and put her on medication just in case of infection and even gave her a preventative dewormer just in case they missed anything in fecal exam.  

Thursday, April 16, 2015, Sophie woke up with the same symptoms as she had January, I sprang right into action and decided to fill another prescription of the  gastrointestinal dog food and I had a half of a box still of the probiotic and began that morning of feeding her that.  I was hoping that would help her.  When I got nervous was later in the day when I took her out to go to the bathroom.  She had been straining while going to the bathroom literally for 5-10 minutes with nothing coming out...but this time there was actual blood in her stool.  I came right into the house and called Banfield Pet Hospital (Hospital in Pet Smart) who I have her on a pet wellness plan with.  They told me to bring her in right away to be checked out.  When we got there they saw us right away.  Her temp was normal but she was acting a little more poopy than normal.  The doctor decided that it would be best to run blood tests and a fecal test and a Giardia infection test (which is an intestinal infection caused by a microscopic parasite which can be picked up from unsafe water from outside).  We waited for the results of the tests to be run and thankfully everything was good.  The doctor came to us and said that Sophie was having what is called Colitis.  Colitis which is an inflammation of the large intestine, is responsible for half of all cases of recurrent or Persistent diarrhea in the dog. Inflammation of the colon lining prevents residual water from being absorbed efficiently, thus creating this common problem.  The doctor said it is common in Cavalier King Charles Spaniels and she could have bouts of this from time to time.  So he said it was good that I started her back on the low fat gastrointestinal diet prescription food and the probiotic for now. He also gave her a dewormer to cover any other parasite that could have been missed during the fecal exam and she was also put on a medication to help with the inflammation of her intestines and to help with the diarrhea.   I was glad they took such good care of her.  Seeing that blood in her stool really scared me.

Best was since I have Sophie on the Pet Wellness program at Banfield Hospital the visit which should
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have cost $357 only ended up costing $57.  I have to say I am very pleased with Banfield Pet Hospital and the level of care they provide for my dogs.  Their Wellness programs are great.  I have my two other dogs on them too.  Love that it also covers a yearly dental cleaning for them as well and with multiple pets you get multiple discounts.  I can go to the doctor as many visits as needed and it is covered.  All their records are online too so whenever I need them they are there. Best investment I got for them and myself.  

I'm glad to say as of today, Sophie is doing much better.  Little to no more diarrhea and she is her playful old self again so her treatment is working.  She has 5 more days on the medication and if all goes well and she has no other symptoms then she will be fine unless she has another episode. I am hoping not though.  

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

And It Continues Some More

Great Book Recommended to me by a good
friend.  Great Read for those of you who have
to learn how to distance yourself from toxic
people in your life.  I'm learning.
Well I guess I am a gluten for punishment since again I tried and try to make things cordial but now I get ignored. She sends me another letter on April 14, 2015 at 1:33pm telling me I am bullying her which I am not (she still didn't look up the word bullying).  

So here is the definition just so you have it clear....

Bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuseintimidate, or aggressively dominate others.

Explain how I did that? Of course I didn't.  Nor would I. My blog since 2004 is a place I come to to write how I am feeling or about things going on in my life. This is how I express myself and I am the type that wears my heart out on my sleeve   So I replied.  Here is the letter.  I'm done trying to make things better.  She can continue to play her baby games and lie all she wants.

Her words are in black and my responses are in red.

Of course I have to break it down because I really don’t know how else to answer you.

you can post this as well because seriously Dawn. If you say you were kind then stop bullying me and stop obsessing over everything i write. (Again not bullying anyone you obviously haven't looked up the definition and you keep emailing me.) If you are going to tear apart every little thing so be it but come on......  It was one of brian's birthdays... you didn't show... end of story.. (I didn't just not show, I called you and explained the situation and so things come up that are out of our control. I can’t leave my crying children and I myself was visibly upset too. I am supposed to control the day my cat dies and you were the one who was so sure it was his first birthday I missed and I proved you wrong.  You know darn well I made sure I came over because I felt real bad about missing his second birthday but honestly that means nothing to you. How can you say I didn’t care.  How do you say that to someone and not think it hurts.  I had a communion party for Brittany did I get mad because you couldn’t come because you had Brian the week before…no of course not…things come up it’s life.)

You are his godmother and you have not even sent him a birthday card, whether or not we were friends or not so i consider him not having one at this point. (Yes another thing you did that was hurtful to me. You told me that you didn't want me as his Godmother that you chose your niece as his Godmother from now on and that it was a mistake to ask me and you want me to do stuff are you kidding. I always treated Brian nicely up until that point you told me you didn't want me as Godmother and you darn well know it.  As far as cards I sent you and Brian a Christmas Card this year.  Where was mine? And I'm not least I was trying.)

I had to do what I needed to do to get away from keith my way.. you couldn't understand that. ( But you didn't have to treat me like crap you just got very nasty with me and told me I was attacking you because your mother just died.  I was your best friend and you tell me your being abused and you want me to sit at home waiting for a phone call to tell me something awful happened to you.  Believe it or not I cared.  You took it wrong and that is not my fault.  I was only trying to help you because I didn't want to see you hurt or dead...god forbid…I was out of my mind with worry…you ask my mother that because she is the one who told me to intervene with you. Damn me for giving a crap about what happened to you but at least I tried) I am finally Happy with a man that treat brian so well, and his girls are amazing. I am finally HAPPY with a life that i should of had. (Yes,  You should be happy I said that to you time and time again.  I am happy for you and glad you found happiness with someone who will treat you the way you should have been treated all along.  Everyone deserves to be happy and have good relationships.)

We have gone in different directions and we don't have anything in common anymore. (How can you say that?  We went in what different directions. We have nothing in common WHAT!! 30+ Years nothing in common Really?? got mad at me for trying to help you out of a bad situation Alison) I don't want to fight and I seriously don't want to be accused of things i did not do.  (You don't want to fight but you started this whole thing.  You kept blocking me and unblocking me from stuff on your page constantly.  When I ask you you say I am attacking you.  You pulled this last August with the delete thing too.  Though that time you were nice about it.)Sean was posting about someone else seriously... i deleted your posts because i know where you were going with it... tell me thats a lie... ( Where was I going with it I believed you once again and then it is proven when you delete the post and block me again...what does that say about the games you were playing.  That was quite unnecessary as I did not do a thing to deserve that at all so that wasn't a lie)

Im asking you as a person to stop putting my name out there and slandering me. You are slandering because some of that stuff is justified.  (Yes it is justified your right and it is not slander if it is the truth)

My family is hurt  that you put my mom out there as a drunk and drug abuser. I showed it to them.. They are not happy at all and yes i do talk to them. we are closer now since my sister died. (I could care less what your family thinks of me...never really seen them your whole life and I wrote what the truth was and only explained it in a way that was to try to say why you have had a hard life.  You know that was the truth Alison you talked about it all the time)

Oh and yes, they put pumpkin down the same day. It was tuesday and it was at the shelter in wantagh. When i got there it was too late because pumpkin was declared sick and old and they couldn't adopt him out. (Then I apologize for that but it was the wrong thing to do as far as Keith was concerned with that)  As of little joe, i had to protect brian at the time but there is a police report on keith about abusing the animals. So no, you don't know everything. I loved those animals dearly and i was in a bad situation with Keith. ( I understand you were in a bad situation but you could have spoken up and got the cat back regardless of an abusive relationship would have to kill me to have any of my animals taken away from me and dumped like that) You don't know because you were never in an abusive relationship. You did side with him and was on the phone with him bashing me to him. ( Excuse me I never bashed you to him and YOU put me on the phone with him. I told you time and time again I didn't want to speak to him that I was your friend and I was on your side. I hated when you put me on the phone with him what did you want me to do being in the middle and then he told me his side of things. If you didn’t want me in the middle of it you should have never put me on the phone with him…it was wrong to do that.  Who does that anyways.  I never have.)He even commented on what a great friend you were. That hurt me deeply and this again stems from a picture of my mother being deleted which again wasn't.  (I have no idea what this statement means.)

I can go over this a million times.  I have no ill will towards you. I just don't want the fighting or bashing. Its very hurtful what you are doing. (It was hurtful what you did to me time and time and again and and then this time I was not doing anything but staying in my little quiet corner not doing anything to you and then I see you blocking and unblocking me then blocking me again for what.  Why would you do that? Why play games like that.  I get along with everyone on FB and don't have any problems with anyone.  You however had to start this not me.  I did nothing to you.  We had such a nice conversation and again I think things are fine between us but was still waiting when you were going to reach out and talk to me like you said you were but never did.)  Im asking as the kind person you say you are, please stop the posts of all the bad things i did. (Alison this has been a pattern with you over the years, everyone knew and saw it.  You really did some not so nice things to me that were truly hurtful and never cared or ever apologized for most of it especially the things I wrote about. So when you did this to me again what did you think I was going to do.) What about the good times we had?  we did have some good times as well...(Yes we did have good times, I know we did.  I really thought I had a friend forever with you.  You were always like a sister to me we knew each other so well.  I wish you would see that.  I never had any ill will towards you either.  Why do you think I would stand up for you when you told me that Keith was abusing you.  You know how much that hurt me for you to tell me I was attacking you.  I was going through my own issues at the time too with my own deep depression and anxiety.   That you would think I would hurt you but telling you I wanted to help you sent me to the point of never even cared about that.  That hurts so very deeply.  I was in therapy because of you and what YOU did with my family behind my back.  I never went behind your back and told your family personal things about you.  Are you sorry for that?  I am 45 years old I don't need this drama that's why I tried settling it with you last year.  I have all the posts from you from when I was away and you messaged me.  We left things very cordial. Why you couldn't leave it like that was beyond me.  Why when I asked you if you were blocking me and you know you were why did you do that.  What did I deserve at the time sitting in my quiet corner to deserve that.  It hurts...maybe it shouldn't but you have been a long part of my life and I am tired just plain tired of all of this. We didn’t have to be close friends but we still could have been friends on FB.  I’m sure you don’t see and visit every FB friend you have.  I know I don’t.  Some are just old school friends and even some family that live far away that I keep in touch with time to time.  Why you couldn’t just stay cordial is a mystery to me.  Maybe when you sit and think about that you will see what you did and this whole mess could have been avoided.  I just want peace in my life as I’m sure you do to.  We can go back to being cordial or not it’s up to you.  The ball is in your court.  If you want that I will be glad to take down my posts. 

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Oh It Never Ends With Her Lies Continue

Leave it to her to continue.  Telling me I am slandering her.  Oh and bullying her.  Is she for real. Yeah slander is if you are telling lies.  I am telling the truth and my experience with her so NO it is not slander. She obviously doesn't know what the word means or has failed to do her homework.  She is full of lies.  She didn't like what I wrote...too bad if the TRUTH actually hurts.  But as I swear on my children this is how she has been my whole 30+ years of knowing her.  Yesterday I get an email from her.  (see below) Telling me that I wasn't invited to her baclorette party because I didn't have money...HA really?  Then she tells me and I quote from her "One thing is for sure, it was your godson's first birthday party and your mother offered to watch the cat for an hour." which is wrong but will explain more later. See my letter to her below...that will make another one of her lies come to light.  She didn't even have her info right. It was because I had to stay home because my cat was dying that day and ended up passing away that day.  She says I'm not a nice person.  Who could put up with her for so long and not be considered nice.  Then she tells me all I want is attention? Huh??

On Apr 13, 2015, at 8:06 AM, alison wrote:  My comments are in blue.

This will be the only response from me. What you are doing is straight out bullying and it will not be taken lightly.  (Oh really bullying...I don't think so. Look up the word) You have disgraced my mother on that blog and she isn't even alive to defend herself. You have used my NAME in your blog which is slander. ( Slander is only if you are telling lies and making up stories...I certainly don't have to do that with you. I disgraced no one just told the truth) you only know half the story about most of those things. (Oh really, enlighten me please)  Pumpkin, yeah i went to the pound Dawn, it was too late. (Yeah because you left him there for a week. If my husband dropped my cat off at the pound behind my back, which he would never do I would have went there the same day to get my cat back not wait a week. That is why you cat is dead!!)  You want to side with Keith go right ahead. (UM NO Never Did)  He abused myself and Brian and we are free of him now. ( Gee that's why I offered your a place to stay and then proceeded to tell me I'm attacking you.  I was only being kind to get you out of a bad situation and that is how you treat me.) You destroyed our friendship when you defyed me and told keith everything and posted the most personal stuff on twitter about me. (Yeah I talked to Keith after you put me on the phone with him over and over again, seriously you put me in the middle of all your fights with him.  I looked back on my twitter I don't see a thing your even talking about...more lies from you)  A friend doesnt do that. I've been done with you for a long while and kept you at arms length. (Really that's why you told me to leave it in the past and move on and we would get together and talk and we had a very lovely conversation in August while I was on vacation but you lied about that too) I saw what you did to your family members and I see what you did to me.  ( You have no clue about my family members. I have great relationships with them you emailed them behind my back what a friend you are, lucky they don't believe anything from you either...they've seen the hurt you've caused on me for 30+ years) You are not this kind person you play out to be Dawn and others see right through you, trust me! (Oh no Alison, I've only ever been there for you for everything...lending you money, giving you a place to stay when you lived in your car, Paying for stuff for you, Being there for you when your own family wanted nothing to do with you including your own mother, Paying for your bridal shower, pre-wedding festivities...hmm how nice can I be to accept all your lies for 30+ years and what others see right through me?  Seriously...please)   I never said anything bad about you on FB, the stuff that was posted wasnt even about you, you ASSUMED it was. (Yeah you keep telling that story.  So when I wrote something nice on the post because you said it wasn't about me it gets deleted and me blocked again..really Alison I am not stupid.) Believe what you want to believe in your head of yours. Im done... (Well I couldn't be more done with you and your lies)You are right up there with Keith.... (I am no where like Keith, I do not abuse people) Oh, as for my bacholorette party? you kept complaining that you didnt have money so that is why karen and mary didn't ask you.  (Really I have no money who paid for all your wedding shower and pre-wedding day festivities and I always had money and still do...Where do you get your material?) One thing for sure,it was your godson's first birthday party.and your mother offered to watch the cat for an hour.. (Oh for sure!! Right another lie!! I was at your son's first birthday and have pictures to prove it, get your facts straight and stop your lying some more...I guess you believe your lies so much you actually believe them as truth) You left a cat in your bathtub in pain while you had a party yourself at your house and boy did people comment on that.  (My cat was sick with a stomach virus not in pain and put herself in the bathtub.  She could of jumped out anytime she wanted. Should I stick my cat out on the street like you do with your pets when you don't want them) Stay away from me, don't contact me. Just move on with your life. (Um you contacted me. And for what to tell me more lies. I'm am more than glad to move on and be rid of the toxic friendship we had there are only so many times you can lie.)  Remember any friend I had, you always had an issue with.  ( Who Maria, Karen they were not nice people and I will explain in letter below) So i dont think it was me. (Oh it was you alright.  You just keep telling your lies some more) Till this day I still talk to Maria and she has been really supportive and kind.  ( How exciting for you...she doesn't or will never know you like I do.)

Im not going to post this stuff on fb because again that is stooping to a level that is so low and I dont need to justify myself.  (Ummm you already did that.  I never did like you did.) People know how you are and just walk on eggshells.  (Oh really who are these so called people you speak of because you have no clue.  No one walks on eggshells around me ) You are all show and constantly need attention. (Really all show for what and when do I need attention?)  Go away and go be happy with your friends and family and leave me alone...... at 45 im done.  ( I'm 45 and happily married 23 years to an amazing man and have wonderful kids and friends who don't lie to me like you should be ashamed of yourself and should be sorry for all you have done.  But Karma has played you the right hand in life!! You got what you dished out to me 10 fold.  Poor you!)
Then this is the reply I wrote back to her.

To Alison:

This will be the only response to me since you can’t get your stories straight. I really don’t know what the heck is wrong with you.  Bullying…far from it. Do you even know what the word means?  First off…it isn’t slander if it is the truth.  You know darn well it’s the truth.  I have family that will back me up in a second with all the things you have done to me that I wrote about.  So you go on about your slander and I will post what I know as the truth.  Don’t like it don’t read it.

I din’t disgrace anyone on that blog it was the gods honest truth. Your not good at telling the truth.  Never have been.  My parents saw things that happened to you and were there to pick up pieces too when needed for you and so was I.  You can’t deny that.  How about when your mother was so drunk my parents had to come over your house because you didn’t know what to do.  You told me yourself that your mother abused prescription pills and doctor shopped. 

I told Keith what on twitter? I was never friends with Keith on twitter? So don’t know what you’re talking about.  Remember you put me in the middle of your fights with him.  I could give a crap about Keith.  I told you I know what he did but you stuck me on the phone with him and he told me his side too.  So if you didn’t want me to hear it you should of never put me on the phone with him. You always put me in the middle of your fights. I always told you I didn’t want to hear what he had to say that I didn’t want you in that situation of abuse…I offered you a safe place but when I say that you tell me I am attacking you.  Plus you went behind my back and sent personal emails to my family.  Who does that? huh!!  I was told all about that and what you were doing and it wasn’t very nice what they thought of you for doing it. It just showed them how petty you were. You know nothing about my family and our relationships. I have great relationships with my family.  They have finally seen through you.  My own mother has had enough of you.  She was disgusted at what you did….through out our whole friendship.  She never understood why I stayed friends with you when all you did was be hurtful.

I don’t even know what you are talking about.  You kept me at arms length.  I was trying to be nice to you last August I tried to talk to you nicely and we actually had a good conversation.  I was on vacation and took time to talk to you because I knew what a hard time you were going through after your sister passed.  I told you leave the past in the past and you said we would get together and talk when things calmed down after I got back from vacation.  Did you reach out.  No another lie by you. But surely you did not want to do that and had to create this problem.  Why would you do that?  So why say one thing and then say you kept me at arms length.  Do you see how you lie?

Then you pull your crap with the blocking and unblocking.  All I did is ask you a question as to why you were doing it and and I am attacking you.  Give me a break.  You know I am not stupid.  I know how fb works…other people saw your posts you were blocking me from.  You know the truth but that is something that always eluded you.  One minute I see something and the next you have me blocked.  Then you unblock me so I can see what your boyfriend wrote. Then I post a nice comment on it…because you said it wasn’t me and  again I believe your lie and you delete it and block me again.  Alison what was with the baby games seriously.  Your 45 years old for gods sake.  I had not done anything to you at all we barely talked.  I didn’t understand why you would do that.  Do you realize you started that. I never thought there was anything wrong since we talked in August. 

As far as my cat Mandee who I had for 18 years.  Again I would never leave my cat as she ended up dying that day not even for an hour she was that bad. My mother never said she would stay with her for an hour and you can ask her that personally.  She and my father came by my house to sit with me as my cat laid dying in my arms and everyone in my house was very upset and crying.  Would you leave you son to go to a birthday party if he was upset his pet was on his death bed and he was crying?  I think not. I was not going to leave my 18 year old cat.  Plus it was not his first birthday it was his second birthday.  I have pictures of me at his first birthday party.  I also made it up and came by that same week. You darn well know that because I felt bad.  Also not the same cat that was in the bathtub who was sick that day when I was having a party that was Misty my other cat.  She was only in there because she had the runs the day before and was sick.  Everyone I know knew and understood that. So I have no idea again what comments people were saying…because you are full of crap. What would you think I should have done with her toss her out like you do with your pets. My family all have had pets who we actually cared for who have gotten sick before.  She actually bounced back the next day after that party.  That is where the cat put herself.  Cat’s put themselves in strange places when they are sick.  She could have jumped out of a bathtub it she wanted to.  So you believe what you want as you say to me. I care for my pets and take care of all of them unlike you.  You just toss your pets to there death.  Did you save Little Joe from being dumped at the dumpsters and then not speak up and say what Keith did when the cops came to your door.  Cats are also not put down right away…you left Pumpkin there long enough that he was put down.  Nice pet parent you are.

Here is the picture of me and your son at his FIRST BIRTHDAY PARTY THAT YOU SAY I WASN’T THERE FOR.  It’s even date stamped!! My sister Lisa and Darren in the background with my mother.  I have a picture of his first cake too!! See how you LIE!!  You need to look back and see what was really done for you.  You make up stories to suit you and you can’t understand why I have had enough of you and your lies.


As for your bachelorette  party.  How are you to assume I had no money.  I have always had money. You could have asked. You never did.  You are the one who said they just planned it and excluded me but you didn’t want to tell me. Nice.  How would Mary or Karen know I would not have money to go unless she asked me? They asked everyone but me. You knew what was going on.  Great best friend you were to me who was your matron of honor.  You lied and kept that from me. Your friend Karen threw it in my face and smiled and was very snarky about it. You wonder why I didn’t like her.  You have no idea how my whole family were all going to leave your wedding that day because of that. You were wrong and you damn well know it.  Your lucky I stayed and even still gave you a nice toast.  David was there he knows exactly what they did in that limo.  For gods sake I and my mother are the ones who PAID for your bridal shower and wedding day pre-festivities that your own mother didn’t even want to be a part of. Wonder why? You forget you had a family that was there for you when no one else was. That you used!!  Oh and as for money  I have always had plenty of money and still do.  We have a very successful business that affords us all we need and want.  How might I have paid for all of that for you.   I didn’t see your bridal party chipping in for anything for any of that. My mother and I paid for it all!!  Where were your bridal party to help…no where!! Karen was too busy having her nails done the day of your bridal shower to help with anything.  Where was everyone else? As for your wedding day they couldn’t even have their dresses pressed for the day of the wedding.  Making my poor mother have to press out dresses on the day of the wedding because your bridal party would of walked down the isle looking like rag pickers otherwise in wrinkled dresses.  You even realize how lucky you were that you had a family that was there for you when your own family mother and sisters wouldn't do anything for you.  You know how used my mother feels about that.  Especially after what transpired the day of the wedding…that was down right wrong.

Who gives a crap about Maria.  She was nasty to my mother and so were you that day.  How dare you bring her to my parents home and have her start with my mother.  You wonder why I didn’t like her.  You had some nerve.  You think people are your friends.  I know a few who knew exactly how you were acting again when they saw your posts and contacted me.  Oh and keeping Carol and my Aunt Frannie as your friends.  Why bother.  You deleted everyone else. Don’t worry they tell me everything.  Remember they are my family not your friends.

Your not going to post things on FB….Seriously  you did that already…you know it and I know it.  Your boyfriend did it.  He said to say anything to him anytime to his face well I welcome him to come on over because I have plenty to tell about how not nice you have been to me.  I've know you a lot longer than he has.  No one walks on eggshells around me either.  So don’t know where you get your material.  I need attention…attention for what?  I had done nothing to you.  You started this not me.  I asked why and you tell me I am attacking you.  All I ever said to you that I wished you would be happy.  I am happy you found someone who treats you nice for a change.  Why you started this pettiness is beyond me.  I am too old for your games you play when it suits you.

By the way I am very happy.  I have a great life. Got a great husband I have been with over 26 years.  Got great kids who are happy.  Why don’t you learn to have a happy life for once instead of hurting others for a change. You always were the one with the terrible life with everyone who treated you badly.  Maybe that is Karma Alison.  You got treated a certain way in life because that is how you treated others and me.  You wonder why you had such a hard life.  I can only feel sorry for someone like you.


So keep it coming Alison because I can back up my truth to your lies any day any time! How I put up with you for so long I think makes me nicer than anyone could possibly be.  I know who I am and I was raised right to be caring, compassionate and loving.  Something you did not know how to be.

Have a good day!

Saturday, April 11, 2015

Happy National Pet Day!

Here are my current pets that we love so much.

We have Sophie Ana - Ruby Cavalier King Charles Spaniel, Ellie Mae- Our Cat, Bella Joy - Tri-Colored Cavalier King Charles Spaniel, Molly Grace - Blenheim Cavalier King Charles Spaniel,
Big Jack - African Cichlid Fish,  Squirt - Red Ear Slider Turtle.

Wednesday, April 8, 2015

Bathroom Remodel 2015

Did some shopping with Alan this past weekend.  We got new dressers and mirrors for David and Brittany's rooms. Then went to look at bathroom cabinets at Consumers Kitchen's and Baths for our bathroom remodel we are doing this spring/summer, medicine chests and a John for over the toilet this is the color and set we picked. Made of nice cherry wood. Except this one is 48" and we are going to 61". Just will be picking different knobs for the cabinet since we are doing a Venetian Bronze faucets for sink and tub. Can't wait for this project to get started.

This is the cabinet / mirror in the cherry wood and color we picked out only difference  is this is 48" and we are getting a larger one at 61"
You can see all the things I picked out so far on my Pinterest Board.

Monday, April 6, 2015

Alison Carnacchio - Old Friends are Nasty Friends!!

You think I should have learned my lesson when it comes to her.  She is at it again!  Blocking, unblocking blocking and denying it all.  Oh and unblocking me so that I could see the trashing of me on FB.  See below for post from FB before I was blocked again.
This is what her boyfriend wrote that she said wasn't about me, but then when I posted a nice comment on it when she told me it wasn't about me it got deleted and I got blocked from her post again.  See the games she plays.  Sean I will tell it to your face any day any time just tell me when.  You haven't known her like I do.
Then this is what I wrote to her when she said it wasn't me only for it to get deleted and then me blocked from the post again!  She lies so much it isn't even funny anymore.
Oh and telling me it had nothing to do with me when it so did.  Lying again and again!! So I asked why?  All I did was ask why she was doing that and I get why am I attacking her?  What are you serious!! What could be so wrong with her?  She has done such horrible things to me since we were kids.  If I actually had to start making a list it would go on and on.  My mom always said she was trouble and I should have listened.  Like the time she brought a girl named Maria to my house and started with my Mom on our front stoop.  My mother had to yell at her and tell them all to leave or she would call the police. She is a very mentally unstable person.  How she gets though her life lying over and over again is unreal.  At this point in my life I am done with her nonsense.  I am too old for her games she has played with me throughout me life.  My family has had enough of her nonsense.  They are done being used for her needs.  She used my parents... we hosted her wedding, bridal shower, etc.  Then on the way to her wedding only for me to find out her friends throws in my face that she had a bachelorette party and I was not invited.  How does a best friend do that to someone.  She didn't even tell me. I was her Matron of Honor. How I even stood up for this outrages bitch of a girl was beyond me.  I ignored her most of her wedding because of it. What me and my family really wanted to do was leave the wedding. I am even surprised I was able to give a wedding toast to her that was rather nice.

Oh let's go on to another time.  Lets talk about my cat dying one day that happened to be her son's birthday and she blamed me for not coming to the birthday party because I had to stay home with a cat I had for 18 years who I wasn't going to leave home to die by herself.  By the way I made that up to her son by stopping by that week with Brian's gifts.  Did she care no.  She threw it in my face that I wasn't there for her son's birthday.  Who would actually leave there dying pet to go to a birthday party.  No one....but I guess she would.  She actually had a cat who was a sweetheart of a cat named Pumpkin...her husband didn't like him so he brought him to a kill shelter....he wasn't adopted with in a week or so and Alison didn't care to go get the cat especially since her husband did it behind her back...she let the cat be put down to it's death.  She also let her husband put another cat out on the street by dumpsters....and just throw it out of the house. They actually got reported by some one and cops came to door to ask them if it was their cat and they lied and said no.  Did she do anything. Did she open her mouth to help this poor cat who was her pet. NO!! I feel sorry for any pet she has now.   God forbid...if she doesn't care anymore the pets going to be put down or thrown out.

My 21st birthday...oh that was a doozie.  Alan my husband was throwing me a surprise birthday party and asked her who was my best friend to invite family and friends to the party....well the day the party one was at the room he booked not one person!! Alan was fuming.  He called her who also wasn't even there and she replies with oh no one wanted to come.  Oh really...not one person got an invite after Alan had asked around.  Also my family never even knew about it.  I told Alan I couldn't believe he even asked her to do the inviting because she was so irresponsible.   She didn't even care.  She didn't even apologize to Alan who lost $500 deposit!!  How do you do that to someone who is supposed to be your best friend.

My wedding...ha...she didn't even show up to my bachelorette party.  To busy with a boyfriend to care to show up. Trying to get her to go for a fitting for a dress was nearly impossible and to pay for it what a joke I had to lay out money for that...she didn't even bother showing up for that.  Then the day of the wedding comes and she is late for the wedding...supposedly a tire blew and she didn't even call to have someone come get her.  Not to mention because she didn't get her dress fitted properly it ripped down the seam in the middle of the reception.  How embarrassing.

Oh and the best one yet is that she tells me she is in an abusive relationship with her husband and she tells me that she and her son are being abused physically and verbally by her husband.  So I ask because I don't want her in that situation..  do you need a place to stay...can I help you out.  You are welcome in my home and she tells me that I again am attacking her and that her mother just died....Then she emails my family and tells them nasty things about me.  All because I was trying to help her.  What's wrong with her!  Isn't that what best friends are supposed to do.  She screwed with me so badly at that point I almost committed suicide because of her.  That's how much she messed with my mind at the time.  Yes I deal with depression and anxiety but she wanted to blame her issues on me that I was mentally unstable..geeze I wanted to help her.  Did she care when I told her how I was feeling and what I almost did because of her behavior of course not...because if something doesn't suit Alison she doesn't care.  All she cares about is herself.  She likes to put on a show for everyone and make you think she is really nice but believe me 30+ years of knowing her she is not very nice.

This is just some of the stuff she has done. I haven't even said what she did to me in school.  Like the times she stole money everyday from her mother to go to the local gas station and buy candy so that she could give it out and make friends in school.  They only cared about her because she had candy.  I her best friend well she pushed to the side like crap.

I know I am babbling on and on... Let's not even mention all the times she put me in the middle of her marital fights with her husband.  Why put me there... She would actually put me on the phone with her husband to talk to him.   She lied so many times to me since I've know her  who knows maybe her husband wasn't so bad.  He told me she abused him too hitting him when he just had knee surgery...Nice huh.  Sweet girl...

The he blocking and unblocking thing in the I am computer illiterate really.  I knew what she was doing.  I knew she was playing games with me.  She is a sad pathetic immature woman...who in some ways never grew up my mother even agreed I should have dropped her as a friend a long, long time ago.  I knew her 30+ years.   Believe me when I say I can go on and on with story after story of the crap she has pulled.   Ask me why I continued to be friends with her I can't say.  Maybe I always felt sorry for her.  Her father died when she was young.  Her mother was an alcoholic and a drug abuser...but does that mean she is to treat others or me like garbage.   I thought we settled all this last August when again she deleted me just out of the blue...thought that time she didn't claim I was attacking her.  We talked nicely and I said lets just leave the past in the past.  Then a few days after her birthday this year after a whole year of barely saying anything to each other she just blocks me out of the blue and lies about it.  No I am not dumb.  She is dumb to think I am that stupid.  She goes and blocks my whole family.  This is a family that was nothing but ever nice to her throughout her 30+ years of knowing me.    This is how she acts... Not nice!!  She pretends to be nice.  When she is done using you she throws you away like a piece of crap.  I pity anyone who is friends with her.  Don't get to close because one day you will be lied to by her or hurt by her.  

If someone said do you trust her or should you trust her.  I would say no.  From my experiences and there are plenty more I have never found her trust-worthy. Take it from me!!  It can't be more of a toxic relationship than with her!!


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